Patricia Lou Cary


****Graveside services will be held at 3 p.m. Friday, April 9, 2021 at the Higginsville Missouri Veteran’s Cemetery.

Patricia Lou Cary, formally of Blue Springs, Missouri passed away on December 25th, 2020 in Lawrence, Kansas. She suffered from Alzheimer’s for the last seven years and died while in hospice care at her son’s house in Lawrence.

Pat was born on June 2, 1937 in Independence, Missouri to Charles F. and Lucille Miller. In 1955 she graduated from William Chrisman High School in Independence, Missouri. She married Joseph Dean Cary in Independence on October 13, 1957. She became a homemaker, raising three children, participating in 4H, Cub Scouts and Girl Scouts. She worked for many years as the office manager for Dr. Charles Donohoe, MD in Independence. She absolutely loved everything about Christmas. She was known for making Christmas candies and cookies, giving boxes of the treats to dozens of families every year. She was also a huge fan of Mickey Mouse.

She is survived by her children: Julie Sippio (husband, Jim) of Loveland, Colorado; Dan Cary (wife, Susan) of Lawrence, Kansas; and Tammy Rife (husband, Dale) of Blue Springs Missouri. She is also survived by eight grandchildren and one great grandchild.


Memorial contributions may be made in her name to the Alzheimer’s Association in care of Warren McElwain mortuary, 120 W. 13th St., Lawrence, KS 66044.

5 Condolences

  1. The Fouraker family on December 29, 2020 at 1:57 pm

    Dan and family,

    So sorry for your loss. Know that she is in a better place and sure she appreciated your support in her final months. Your all in our thoughts and prayers.

  2. Linda & Don Buttron on December 29, 2020 at 8:08 pm

    Thinking of you Dan with your mom’s passing. Prayers for comfort for all your family! Blessings—Linda & Don Buttron

  3. Harkness Fam on December 29, 2020 at 9:47 pm

    Madi and Family,
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sure she was a very precious soul and will be deeply missed. Prayers for all of you!

  4. Kathy Eisman on December 29, 2020 at 10:24 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am pleased that you were able to spend time with her towards the end. I just loved her and your Dad. My thoughts are prayers are with you and your families

  5. Rachel Wegener on January 2, 2021 at 12:01 pm

    Dan and Susan,

    Please accept my sincere condolences. Thinking of you both and your family.

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